I feel notorious.

[kiya]

I just got sent this link by cheshyre, who told me that hitting the third paragraph made her think of me. I feel warm and fuzzy and possessed of well-known buttons or something.

It's a nice change from dealing with someone apparently possessed of the delusion that my age is a better basis upon which to judge my life than my actual life. (I asked Scott if he thought it would be fair to characterise me as being in a period of "experimentation", and after a "Huh?" and a brief commentary, he settled on "Short answer: No." I figure he's known me for nearly ten years and is enough older than I am that any presumed "You're just saying that because you're young, stupid, and ignorant" sort of founders.) This is the second time I've hit this sort of bigotry in the polyamory community, too. It's the sort of bullshit that led to the founding of the poly-under30 mailing list . . . yaaah, five or six years ago now, is it? Good fuckin' grief.

It was so tempting to say, "So, how old were you by the point that you'd figured out how to have a relationship that could last, let's see, say, eight years?" An open one at that. Reminds me of the people who've dismissed my input about poly situations because, of course, I hadn't yet gone through the mistakes they learned from that I was never fucking moronic enough to make, or because being monogamous for thirty years and then deciding to open a relationship provides more information about how to be successfully poly than actually having been poly without huge amounts of stupid explosion for one's entire relationship life, just because one's talking about thirty years and one's talking about five.

Grumple.

Comments

[brooksmoses]

It's a good link, too. Nice, crisply made point -- well, at least, compared to the amount of wordage I'd produce trying to make the same point, anyhow. *grin*

It has been a somewhat productive day at work; the meeting went well. On the other hand, staying up until 1:30am working on things tends to mean that I don't seem to get substantially more done on them the next day, owing to sleepiness. Ah, well. I go home now, I think.

- Brooks

[kiya]

Heh. Getting stuff done good.

Don't forget that it's Monday. . . .

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Three snaps up. I *hate* it when people conflate age, wisdom, and experience. They are all different.

A.

[elisem.livejournal.com]

Hoo yeah. You said it.

[sashajwolf.livejournal.com]

Good article. Incidentally, the Open University course I just finished suggests that the use of new media is actually resulting in an increase in the reading of printed media (more routes by which to acquire an interpretive framework that makes reading worthwhile, as well as the more obvious points like the greater ease of online ordering for people in remote locations).