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I just got sent this link by ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
cheshyre, who told me that hitting the third paragraph made her think of me. I feel warm and fuzzy and possessed of well-known buttons or something.
It's a nice change from dealing with someone apparently possessed of the delusion that my age is a better basis upon which to judge my life than my actual life. (I asked Scott if he thought it would be fair to characterise me as being in a period of "experimentation", and after a "Huh?" and a brief commentary, he settled on "Short answer: No." I figure he's known me for nearly ten years and is enough older than I am that any presumed "You're just saying that because you're young, stupid, and ignorant" sort of founders.) This is the second time I've hit this sort of bigotry in the![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-community.gif)
polyamory community, too. It's the sort of bullshit that led to the founding of the poly-under30 mailing list . . . yaaah, five or six years ago now, is it? Good fuckin' grief.
It was so tempting to say, "So, how old were you by the point that you'd figured out how to have a relationship that could last, let's see, say, eight years?" An open one at that. Reminds me of the people who've dismissed my input about poly situations because, of course, I hadn't yet gone through the mistakes they learned from that I was never fucking moronic enough to make, or because being monogamous for thirty years and then deciding to open a relationship provides more information about how to be successfully poly than actually having been poly without huge amounts of stupid explosion for one's entire relationship life, just because one's talking about thirty years and one's talking about five.
Grumple.
cheshyre, who told me that hitting the third paragraph made her think of me. I feel warm and fuzzy and possessed of well-known buttons or something.It's a nice change from dealing with someone apparently possessed of the delusion that my age is a better basis upon which to judge my life than my actual life. (I asked Scott if he thought it would be fair to characterise me as being in a period of "experimentation", and after a "Huh?" and a brief commentary, he settled on "Short answer: No." I figure he's known me for nearly ten years and is enough older than I am that any presumed "You're just saying that because you're young, stupid, and ignorant" sort of founders.) This is the second time I've hit this sort of bigotry in the
polyamory community, too. It's the sort of bullshit that led to the founding of the poly-under30 mailing list . . . yaaah, five or six years ago now, is it? Good fuckin' grief.It was so tempting to say, "So, how old were you by the point that you'd figured out how to have a relationship that could last, let's see, say, eight years?" An open one at that. Reminds me of the people who've dismissed my input about poly situations because, of course, I hadn't yet gone through the mistakes they learned from that I was never fucking moronic enough to make, or because being monogamous for thirty years and then deciding to open a relationship provides more information about how to be successfully poly than actually having been poly without huge amounts of stupid explosion for one's entire relationship life, just because one's talking about thirty years and one's talking about five.
Grumple.
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