Random life update: I have successfully bathed the snake. He is, in fact, about the length of my arm now. This bit of mundane trivia out of the way . . .

I am not entirely certain why this enrages me so, but it does.

Yes, it's flagged with a 'personally'. Maybe that means I shouldn't be so fucking irritated by it.

But then again, the sheer smugness, the sheer smarmy sanctimoniousness of it, as if being bisexual is somehow an effect of personal worth and value, of "creativity" if this person would prefer, and someone who does not have this quality is somehow lacking that "creativity".

Maybe I'm hypersensitive. Maybe I'm as fed up with the poly = bisexuality = poly thing as the monogamous bisexuals I know. But goddamnit! Rant, vent, stomp stomp fucking stomp.

I'm not straight because I'm not trying hard enough. I'm straight because women don't get me wet. This isn't a "creativity" problem. This isn't even a problem except in the eyes of the sort of smug ass who thinks that "creativity" is the answer to orientation. [livejournal.com profile] erispope and I are perfectly happy with the sort of relationship that we have, and me being straight and her being arguably bi (but not attracted to women; men and intersexed folk are her two sexes of choice) is not a goddamned issue.

And while I'm being catty and throwing a temper tantrum, I just wanna say that I really do find it redundant to have this person smugly declare bisexuality at me, as if it wasn't obvious from the gods-be-feathered USERNAME. What is this, fucking overcompensation for insecurity theater? "Look at me! I'm bi! I'm bi! I'm more-creative-than-thou! Look at me being smug about my sexuality!" (I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?)

Okay. . . where's my handle? I seem to have misplaced it when I went flying off. . . .
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From: [identity profile] oneironaut.livejournal.com


Sing it, brother.

I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?

Well, I don't ever talk about anything other than how much sleep I'm not getting....

From: [identity profile] kalmn.livejournal.com


read the userinfo of the person in question.

especially the drama-free zone icon, and the song lyrics directly beneath.

heh.

From: [identity profile] oneironaut.livejournal.com


Jumping Judas.

I have a serious problem with people who define themselves so thoroughly and intensely by one of their adjectives, in no small part because these are often the people who complain most vociferously about adjectivism; though she does mention being literate and a tarot reader and so on, the overwhelming impression that I get is, 'Look at me, damn it! I'm SEXUAL!'

The stereotype of bisexuals as assheads who never shut up about what they're doing with their genitals is not my main reason for not identifying as one, but it's certainly on the list, and this isn't helping any.

From: [identity profile] oneironaut.livejournal.com


Um. <abashed> A bit lower. </abashed>

I'm considering posting a deeper analysis of my orientation than 'My father would be so upset' to my livejournal, because it's amusing: looked at in a similar light to your bisomethingality, I really am gay. But that's a project for another day.

From: [identity profile] mittelbar.livejournal.com

Hah!


The only way I managed to let that one pass was by trying real hard to presume sie meant "I have had to be creative."

From: [identity profile] mittelbar.livejournal.com

Re: Hah!


Or by presuming that sie had hir own "don't make assumptions about what genitalia can be compatible"-button pushed, and was trying to be cute instead of lecturing.
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From: [personal profile] firecat


Personally, I find that bisexuality and creativity have very little to do with one another. So many of my sexual impulses are incredibly cliched. Not the least bit creative.

I do find creativity comes into play when deciding what to do with a particular set of genitalia, but that has nothing to do with whether they are innie or outie genitalia. Thus in that sense bisexuality isn't more creative either.

From: [identity profile] kalmn.livejournal.com


So many of my sexual impulses are incredibly cliched. Not the least bit creative.

um. well. yes. me too.

[hangs head]

i do have the satisfaction of flipping through cosmo nearly every month and finding out that the nine new hot sex tricks are things i knew at seventeen, though. so that keeps me going ;)
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From: [personal profile] firecat

It's a hijack!


(of [livejournal.com profile] lilairen's journal)

Yeah, and I know that if I really need some extra pocket money, I can write for Penthouse Forum.

From: [identity profile] kalmn.livejournal.com

Re: It's a hijack!


well, there's the part where typing either "throbbing member" or "heaving bosoms" and trying to be serious about it makes me giggle too hard to type, but yes.
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From: [identity profile] pir-anha.livejournal.com

a slightly different PoV


I'm not straight because I'm not trying hard enough. I'm straight because women don't get me wet. This isn't a "creativity" problem.

*nod*. well, that's why i am het, cause MOTSS don't cause a single of my three hormones to go "yay!", not even after long friendship, not when i've actively tried. i am plenty creative, thanks.

however, i read the comment slightly differently from everyone else. because really, it isn't about incompatible genitalia for me. i have no objection to the other kinds, and yeah, it would just take some creativity, if my hormones were interested. at least that's what went through my head when i read your original post. i found that a strange way to explain why you're not partners with MOTSS :). but then i dunno, maybe it is actually about genitalia for you.

anyway, maybe this bi person is one of the bi people who believe it's a matter of willpower, because hey, for her it was that way, maybe she "retrained" herself. have met some of those. sorta envy them, actually.

but don't let me ruin that tantrum! i'm with you on grouching about handles like that (and don't get me started on "goddess" sort of crap) but i really have no fin to stand on there, do i.

-piranha
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From: [personal profile] brooksmoses

Re: a slightly different PoV


Well, yeah, but you did say essentially "someone who I would be dating if we had compatible genitalia". Not everyone knows you well enough, or is in general perceptive enough, to pick up on the fact that you didn't mean the clause as the actual reason that it would appear to be from the sentence construction. Outside of context, an interpretation of "I'd really like to be dating this person, but, goshdarnit, we can't physically make our bits mesh" does fit your statement fairly well, and the response you object to is a fairly reasonable reply to such an interpretation, I think.

- Brooks, sorta agreeing with the fishie here
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From: [identity profile] pir-anha.livejournal.com

Re: a slightly different PoV


there, yes -- brooks can be my translator here. :) i've read you for long enough to just sort of go "eh?" at such writ, and then move on, assured that there is loads of unwritten meaning behind it that i probably would grok if you were to explain it in more detail. the unfortunate bi-something-femme hasn't had any exposure yet to your planet, i think. and yeah, i think she was trying to be cute instead of lecturing. woops. faceplant. :)

(oneironaut is an excellent handle, IMO, to refer down-and-sideways-thread.)

-piranha

From: [identity profile] oneironaut.livejournal.com

Re: a slightly different PoV


maybe she "retrained" herself. have met some of those. sorta envy them, actually.

Some people do have all the luck, yeah. I don't have a lot of sympathy for people who believe their experiences to be relevant across the board, though.

but i really have no fin to stand on there, do i.

Well, I don't think this world suffers for the existence of people who use obscure Greek borrowings as handles and go by the names of aquatic animals.

But maybe that's just me.
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From: [identity profile] submarine-bells.livejournal.com


I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?

Well, sometimes it can be pretty bloody depressing to have one's sexuality be totally invisible *except* when one talks about it. I've got no idea what the circumstances are for the person you're griping about here; but I know that for many of us who don't live in Hotbeds of Rampant Non-Mainstreamitude, it can be pretty much impossible to have folk recognise one's bisexuality without making a point of constantly harping on about it. And that gets old, you know?

You know perfectly well how soul-destroying it can be to accept the closets and invisibility that others may wish to foist upon one. And if someone lives in an environment (as I do) where one's sexuality is always assumed to be straight unless one happens to be partnered to a MOTSS, which means that one is gay... well, you've just gotta say "um, no, I'm bi actually" if you're not gonna get shoved back into a closet of some shape or other. And then be prepared to say it over and over and bloody over again. And they *still* don't get it. [sigh]

So yeah, I can understand why one might want to put one's sexual orientation in one's username.

From: [identity profile] baratron.livejournal.com


I am always extremely amused when I read about you bathing the snake, because I always read it as a euphemism. This is despite your userpic showing clearly you holding an actual snake. I must actually have the dirty mind that people often accuse me of having!

From: [identity profile] jinian.livejournal.com


I was reading "we had a long soak" as snake-in-the-tub-with-person. It sounds like I was wrong, and I am sad at the loss of cuteness. My cats won't come into the bathtub with me, and I don't want to bathe in the fish tank...

From: [identity profile] rysmiel.livejournal.com


As far as sex and creativity go, for me they do a positive feedback thing, at least when my writing is the creativity in question. I think I may have a narrative kink. Does that connect on to anything for anyone here ?
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