Random life update: I have successfully bathed the snake. He is, in fact, about the length of my arm now. This bit of mundane trivia out of the way . . .
I am not entirely certain why this enrages me so, but it does.
Yes, it's flagged with a 'personally'. Maybe that means I shouldn't be so fucking irritated by it.
But then again, the sheer smugness, the sheer smarmy sanctimoniousness of it, as if being bisexual is somehow an effect of personal worth and value, of "creativity" if this person would prefer, and someone who does not have this quality is somehow lacking that "creativity".
Maybe I'm hypersensitive. Maybe I'm as fed up with the poly = bisexuality = poly thing as the monogamous bisexuals I know. But goddamnit! Rant, vent, stomp stomp fucking stomp.
I'm not straight because I'm not trying hard enough. I'm straight because women don't get me wet. This isn't a "creativity" problem. This isn't even a problem except in the eyes of the sort of smug ass who thinks that "creativity" is the answer to orientation.
erispope and I are perfectly happy with the sort of relationship that we have, and me being straight and her being arguably bi (but not attracted to women; men and intersexed folk are her two sexes of choice) is not a goddamned issue.
And while I'm being catty and throwing a temper tantrum, I just wanna say that I really do find it redundant to have this person smugly declare bisexuality at me, as if it wasn't obvious from the gods-be-feathered USERNAME. What is this, fucking overcompensation for insecurity theater? "Look at me! I'm bi! I'm bi! I'm more-creative-than-thou! Look at me being smug about my sexuality!" (I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?)
Okay. . . where's my handle? I seem to have misplaced it when I went flying off. . . .
I am not entirely certain why this enrages me so, but it does.
Yes, it's flagged with a 'personally'. Maybe that means I shouldn't be so fucking irritated by it.
But then again, the sheer smugness, the sheer smarmy sanctimoniousness of it, as if being bisexual is somehow an effect of personal worth and value, of "creativity" if this person would prefer, and someone who does not have this quality is somehow lacking that "creativity".
Maybe I'm hypersensitive. Maybe I'm as fed up with the poly = bisexuality = poly thing as the monogamous bisexuals I know. But goddamnit! Rant, vent, stomp stomp fucking stomp.
I'm not straight because I'm not trying hard enough. I'm straight because women don't get me wet. This isn't a "creativity" problem. This isn't even a problem except in the eyes of the sort of smug ass who thinks that "creativity" is the answer to orientation.
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And while I'm being catty and throwing a temper tantrum, I just wanna say that I really do find it redundant to have this person smugly declare bisexuality at me, as if it wasn't obvious from the gods-be-feathered USERNAME. What is this, fucking overcompensation for insecurity theater? "Look at me! I'm bi! I'm bi! I'm more-creative-than-thou! Look at me being smug about my sexuality!" (I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?)
Okay. . . where's my handle? I seem to have misplaced it when I went flying off. . . .
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I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?
Well, I don't ever talk about anything other than how much sleep I'm not getting....
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especially the drama-free zone icon, and the song lyrics directly beneath.
heh.
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Hm. I think the pooka icon can go for being catty, too.
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I have a serious problem with people who define themselves so thoroughly and intensely by one of their adjectives, in no small part because these are often the people who complain most vociferously about adjectivism; though she does mention being literate and a tarot reader and so on, the overwhelming impression that I get is, 'Look at me, damn it! I'm SEXUAL!'
The stereotype of bisexuals as assheads who never shut up about what they're doing with their genitals is not my main reason for not identifying as one, but it's certainly on the list, and this isn't helping any.
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I'm considering posting a deeper analysis of my orientation than 'My father would be so upset' to my livejournal, because it's amusing: looked at in a similar light to your bisomethingality, I really am gay. But that's a project for another day.
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I do find creativity comes into play when deciding what to do with a particular set of genitalia, but that has nothing to do with whether they are innie or outie genitalia. Thus in that sense bisexuality isn't more creative either.
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um. well. yes. me too.
[hangs head]
i do have the satisfaction of flipping through cosmo nearly every month and finding out that the nine new hot sex tricks are things i knew at seventeen, though. so that keeps me going ;)
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Yeah, and I know that if I really need some extra pocket money, I can write for Penthouse Forum.
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*nod*. well, that's why i am het, cause MOTSS don't cause a single of my three hormones to go "yay!", not even after long friendship, not when i've actively tried. i am plenty creative, thanks.
however, i read the comment slightly differently from everyone else. because really, it isn't about incompatible genitalia for me. i have no objection to the other kinds, and yeah, it would just take some creativity, if my hormones were interested. at least that's what went through my head when i read your original post. i found that a strange way to explain why you're not partners with MOTSS :). but then i dunno, maybe it is actually about genitalia for you.
anyway, maybe this bi person is one of the bi people who believe it's a matter of willpower, because hey, for her it was that way, maybe she "retrained" herself. have met some of those. sorta envy them, actually.
but don't let me ruin that tantrum! i'm with you on grouching about handles like that (and don't get me started on "goddess" sort of crap) but i really have no fin to stand on there, do i.
-piranha
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- Brooks, sorta agreeing with the fishie here
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For what little it's worth, we discussed the question of whether or not we had a dating relationship and came to the conclusion that by at least some means of counting, we did. We don't have a sexual relationship, in significant part because we are not sexually compatible.
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(oneironaut is an excellent handle, IMO, to refer down-and-sideways-thread.)
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Some people do have all the luck, yeah. I don't have a lot of sympathy for people who believe their experiences to be relevant across the board, though.
but i really have no fin to stand on there, do i.
Well, I don't think this world suffers for the existence of people who use obscure Greek borrowings as handles and go by the names of aquatic animals.
But maybe that's just me.
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Well, sometimes it can be pretty bloody depressing to have one's sexuality be totally invisible *except* when one talks about it. I've got no idea what the circumstances are for the person you're griping about here; but I know that for many of us who don't live in Hotbeds of Rampant Non-Mainstreamitude, it can be pretty much impossible to have folk recognise one's bisexuality without making a point of constantly harping on about it. And that gets old, you know?
You know perfectly well how soul-destroying it can be to accept the closets and invisibility that others may wish to foist upon one. And if someone lives in an environment (as I do) where one's sexuality is always assumed to be straight unless one happens to be partnered to a MOTSS, which means that one is gay... well, you've just gotta say "um, no, I'm bi actually" if you're not gonna get shoved back into a closet of some shape or other. And then be prepared to say it over and over and bloody over again. And they *still* don't get it. [sigh]
So yeah, I can understand why one might want to put one's sexual orientation in one's username.
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The net effect of snake-bathing is to get me fairly damp overall, though, between the spraying Arthur to keep him from playing bat-the-wiggly-thing, and Kunda occasionally deciding that yes, this soaking thing is well and good, but what he /really/ wants to do is go charging off to Explore The World Outside The Tank.
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