Temper tantrum du jour.

[kiya]

Random life update: I have successfully bathed the snake. He is, in fact, about the length of my arm now. This bit of mundane trivia out of the way . . .

I am not entirely certain why this enrages me so, but it does.

Yes, it's flagged with a 'personally'. Maybe that means I shouldn't be so fucking irritated by it.

But then again, the sheer smugness, the sheer smarmy sanctimoniousness of it, as if being bisexual is somehow an effect of personal worth and value, of "creativity" if this person would prefer, and someone who does not have this quality is somehow lacking that "creativity".

Maybe I'm hypersensitive. Maybe I'm as fed up with the poly = bisexuality = poly thing as the monogamous bisexuals I know. But goddamnit! Rant, vent, stomp stomp fucking stomp.

I'm not straight because I'm not trying hard enough. I'm straight because women don't get me wet. This isn't a "creativity" problem. This isn't even a problem except in the eyes of the sort of smug ass who thinks that "creativity" is the answer to orientation. erispope and I are perfectly happy with the sort of relationship that we have, and me being straight and her being arguably bi (but not attracted to women; men and intersexed folk are her two sexes of choice) is not a goddamned issue.

And while I'm being catty and throwing a temper tantrum, I just wanna say that I really do find it redundant to have this person smugly declare bisexuality at me, as if it wasn't obvious from the gods-be-feathered USERNAME. What is this, fucking overcompensation for insecurity theater? "Look at me! I'm bi! I'm bi! I'm more-creative-than-thou! Look at me being smug about my sexuality!" (I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?)

Okay. . . where's my handle? I seem to have misplaced it when I went flying off. . . .

Comments

[submarine-bells.livejournal.com]

I'm, in calmer moments, about as benignly baffled by people who put their sexual orientation in their usernames as this person I know whose email address is GoBoSox; don't they expect to ever talk about anything else?

Well, sometimes it can be pretty bloody depressing to have one's sexuality be totally invisible *except* when one talks about it. I've got no idea what the circumstances are for the person you're griping about here; but I know that for many of us who don't live in Hotbeds of Rampant Non-Mainstreamitude, it can be pretty much impossible to have folk recognise one's bisexuality without making a point of constantly harping on about it. And that gets old, you know?

You know perfectly well how soul-destroying it can be to accept the closets and invisibility that others may wish to foist upon one. And if someone lives in an environment (as I do) where one's sexuality is always assumed to be straight unless one happens to be partnered to a MOTSS, which means that one is gay... well, you've just gotta say "um, no, I'm bi actually" if you're not gonna get shoved back into a closet of some shape or other. And then be prepared to say it over and over and bloody over again. And they *still* don't get it. [sigh]

So yeah, I can understand why one might want to put one's sexual orientation in one's username.