Tie between the irritable icon and the headdesk one ...

[kiya]

A stray poll thread in IMHO on the SDMB (if that makes no sense to you, translate it as 'a particular subforum of a message board lilairen reads' and it'll be fine) was asking about how many sexual partners people had had.

I what the helled and posted my stats, because I'm the world's most boring nonmonogamous person ever, and I say I'm the most boring nonmonogamous person ever in my original post to the thread. The thread goes on, and a few people express skepticism about numbers, and the original poster says, more or less, "Hey, come on people, it's not like we're going to tell your spouse."

I pointed out that my husband reads the board, but my boyfriend doesn't, not that either of them doesn't know this stuff.

Get a reply (from someone else) of, "Um... what? A husband and a boyfriend- do either of them know about the other?"

I'm not surprised by the "Um, what?", really, as that's not uncommon to being out, but the question ... presumes I'm not only the sort of unethical betraying asshole who would conceal important relationships from important people, but so stupid I'd expose myself in a post where I was pointing out that it was possible my husband might read the thread.

Comments

[rysmiel.livejournal.com]

I sympathise. The lasting reaction I took from being beaten up in Glasgow by a person who thought I was cheating on them with their partner was "While I am upset that you think I would be so unethical, that upset is not even visible beside the incandescent fury I feel at the thought that anyone might think me incompetent enough, if I were to do such a thing, to leave actual evidence that a moron such as you might find."

[ I've recently come to realise that in my idiolect, "actual(ly)" is more often than not a substitute for an expletive. ]

[jenett]

Erm. Yes. Foolish people. (C'mon, the *benefit* of the 'Net is so you can think before you post. Really.)

[leanne-opaskar.livejournal.com]

*shakes her head* Some people just really are that stupid.

[thtrelady.livejournal.com]

Oh I don't know - I've met people that dumb. You aren't one of them.. but they do exist. They are the one's that I point at and say, "waste of carbon and oxygen."

[pameladean]

Such responses are reflexive, like one's foot kicking when the knee is tapped. They involve absolutely no higher brain functions. This is unfortunate, since that makes simple violence a very tempting response.

P.

Clearly, dude put you at his level

[(Anonymous)]

because, of course, people in this thread already think it may be okay for you to be lying about your sexual history to your partner in the FIRST place .. having two, you've got to be lying to at least one of them!

*eyeroll* what can you do when people think you're stupid like them?

(it's HeartShadow, btw)

Re: Clearly, dude put you at his level

[larksdream]

*eyeroll* what can you do when people think you're stupid like them?

I think this about sums it up. :-P

[elf]

1) The difference between two partners and ten is bigger than the difference between ten and fifty.

2) The difference between 10 and 50 is bigger than the difference between 50 and 500.

3) You should've said "oh nooooes! No, they didn't know, and now my husband will read this, and what do I dooooo?!?!? HELP!!!!!" and watched the flames. (You'd've probably gotten plenty of "you get what you deserve, you damned slut." To which you could say, "dammit, I didn't WANT a threesome this week, and now they're BOTH gonna insist on it...")