Today's Irony is. . .

[kiya]

. . . having someone who thought that one was a fucking unhelpful idiot on a livejournal community find one's response very useful on alt.poly and complain about the unhelpful idiot on the livejournal community . . . .

Today's debate is: Do I point it out?

Comments

[wcg.livejournal.com]

Oh, I think you should.

I haven't yet replied to him, becuase I happen to know the woman he's involved with. She and I have been net.friends for years, and I suspect her view of the situation might be somewhat different. I also wonder how she's going to feel when she reads his post, but that's a separate matter.

[kiya]

I may wind up doing so subtly. In a "I still don't think that someone who doesn't want multiple relationships is usefully described by a word that means 'someone who wants multiple relationships'."

I saw him mention that she reads the group. . . .

[kiya]

It belatedly occurs to me that my response to the guy inevitably shifted from the comment, too.

I'm really, really bad about connecting names up to things, or retaining data. It takes me a while to assemble a baseline of interaction with someone and actually consistently attach individual events to that person. Sometimes this hurts me -- when people presume that I've retained them and get huffy over the fact that I haven't. Sometimes it helps me, because while I may get royally annoyed at someone, and in fact still be irritated with them, I don't actually remember who I'm annoyed with, so it has no relevance to my actions.

Every so often, someone will do something that forcibly connects up disparate things and gives them context. In this case, adding the context rather detracts. . . .