Waugh.

[kiya]

We have functional connection again. Yay. No autopsy has been performed on the deceased modem; it has been interred appropriately in the bin.

Definitely not well. But at least I don't have to be awake tomorrow to deal with the electrician, 'cause teinedreugan is, so I can curl up in an unhappy knot for as long as I feel the need to do so. The cats, at least, appear to be entirely recovered from whatever their problem was. (Or at least Lennon's; not sure if Arthur had something.)

Odd name fraughtnesses update: I realised in trying to explain who the heck I was to someone who knew me by the legal something like ten years ago that I can't come out and say, "I'm so-and-so" using the legal forename, because it feels like a lie. So I'm up to the full legal being passable-acceptable, if not favored, and just the forename being a case of severe tire damage, do not back up.[*] Not sure how I'm doing on pinging on Kiya as me at this point, though I'm getting practice at doing so, which is good.

Names are hard. Let's go shopping.

Or sleeping. Let's go sleeping.

Yeah.


Edited to add: [*] Oddly reminded of feeling the need to argue for not being referred to by the legal name in temple/ritual context a while back. Didn't accept the axiom that the legal is more real then, can't get there from here at all now.

Comments

[leanne-opaskar.livejournal.com]

Mrr ... I still call you by your legal name offline, when I am talking about you to others (don't worry, it's all flattering (; ). This is largely because I didn't know you preferred something else. Correct me, wouldja? *hugs* Names are important, and I'd rather be respecting your preferences than not.

[kiya]

I am currently increasingly going by Kiya. And local-to-me folks mostly of your acquaintance are giving me plenty of practice associating it with me, which is very good of them.

Shifting name use is weird.

[leanne-opaskar.livejournal.com]

Kiya it is, then. *hugs*

You know, I'd never really considered actively shifting names. It must be an interesting process ... actively altering your identity in that deep a fashion.

Are you considering legally changing it at some point?

[kiya]

It's not really an altering of identity for me -- it's an altering of the handle people attach to the identity so that the handle doesn't clash messily with the rest of the teapot. ;)

I pronounce it KEE-ya. Or KEE-yuh, really, because I'm an English speaker and thus overenamoured of the schwa.

[leanne-opaskar.livejournal.com]

AaaaAAAaah, I get you. That makes a lot of sense. ....

*wry grin* My brain just tried to provide me the image of the teapot that is the you I perceive. Tallish, slightly slender (but not too much so), ceramic painted in rich brown crosshatches, with a bamboo handle ... though the handle is on the side, not the top. Quite lovely, to be honest.

That was kinda out of the blue ... ^_^

And I apologize in advance if the next time I see you I accidentally call you the wrong thing, but I will definitely endeavor to make that switch. It's just harder if you don't see people face-to-face all that often, so it may take a while to stick. *hugs*

[kiya]

Hey, that's not a bad teapot to be. :)

No worries about getting it weird; it's all weird.

[leanne-opaskar.livejournal.com]

Oh ... is that KEE-ya or KI-ya or some other variant? Want to be sure I'm getting it right.

[nemtetsemnewty.livejournal.com]

Huggles.
Sleeping is good.
kisses you on cheek.
Night.
Nemtetsemnewty

[kiya]

That's a lovely icon! I don't think I've seen that one before.

[nemtetsemnewty.livejournal.com]

It was there but I added a multi colour border to it which gives the impression its a frame.

Glad you like it and if you want to use it feel free to grab.
Huggles.
N.

[pariyal.livejournal.com]

Why should a legal name be "more real?" Names are real only in their proper context.

(I have several different names though they all refer to the same person; my legal name is the one I was baptized with, and my use-name is the one I was confirmed with)

[kiya]

There are a couple of things that seemed to go into it.

One is that temple discussion was being held on a message board, with aliases chosen for that board. There was a certain amount of emphasis put on genuine presence, which was being worked by an attempt to use names that are evocative of genuine presence. This, of course, presumes that the legal name construction is effective for that purpose, which was my issue with it.

The second one being that that temple's denomination did not have a practice of call-it confirmation names, it's close enough. The temple it defined itself against in many ways did have such a practice. So there was a cultural attitude of, "You don't need a special name to be a real member of the religion, unlike what they say". The problem with this one is that one of my classmates had a devotional name that was very important to her, and it was pretty much impossible to get respect for that.

The religion is one in which naming power is a big whacking deal; the problem was having axioms a bit at cross-purposes leading to, effectively, disrespect of people's names (also a big whacking deal). There was an unnecessary dose of denominational politics and some stuff that came across to me as strongarming and powergaming. Big bloody mess.

Am now nondenominational. :P

[larksdream]

Why should a legal name be "more real?"

I've never understood. I carry the last name of someone whose contribution to my life was, er, let's say minimal. I'd happily change it if it weren't for the hassle of already having diplomas, records, and other enmeshments...

[pinkpolarity.livejournal.com]

Hope you feel better, yo.

I hear you on the name thing. It's much *easier* when talking to my mother or other relatives to say "this is Melissa", but it's such a ...lie. Yes, that word is useful. I haven't been a Melissa in a long time, and I really don't care to relearn how to be one.

(Yeah, I remember the "only your legal name is real" crap, and the big battle I started over it. Would it be very odd of me to say "good times"?

[kiya]

I don't think it's odd. I actually think I know what you mean pretty solidly there.

BTW, a while back you mentioned you'd had a dream that helped sort out your issues and said you'd post on it later -- did I miss that post while my 'net was flaky, or has it not happened?