Well. "Exactly once," meaning, "for the relationship." The terms might be re-negotiated later, but when the consent is withdrawn, the relationship is over. Or no longer the same relationship. (Some married couples divorce & remarry; some boyfriend/girlfriends go through on-again, off-again phases.)
The consent is given for whatever-the-terms-are, which may include various exceptions. The consent isn't "anything and everything;" it's "whatever we've agreed to." (Which is sometimes not very well thought-out, sigh, resulting in a need for weird re-negotiations and both parties insisting the other is "doing it wrong" because neither wanted to actually spell out what the consent did & didn't cover.)
And there's no reason the two concepts can't be mixed. A relationship can include overall consent for a wide range of actions, and a submissive component for, for example, some BDSM activities.
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Date: 2010-03-07 04:45 pm (UTC)The consent is given for whatever-the-terms-are, which may include various exceptions. The consent isn't "anything and everything;" it's "whatever we've agreed to." (Which is sometimes not very well thought-out, sigh, resulting in a need for weird re-negotiations and both parties insisting the other is "doing it wrong" because neither wanted to actually spell out what the consent did & didn't cover.)
And there's no reason the two concepts can't be mixed. A relationship can include overall consent for a wide range of actions, and a submissive component for, for example, some BDSM activities.