I agree, rape is about sex. Some rapes are about violence. But I still maintain that most rape is about sex---angry sex is still sex. Some rapists are angry and woman hating, but I think it has more to do with their own frustration at not getting who they want; so they will take who they can, and roughly, perhaps. I always wonder why people never add 2 + 2 and get 4 in this little equation.
In other crimes, whether robbery or anything else, plenty of cases are seen where the victims are cruelly beaten and abused---even killed. But nobody suggests that getting the money/loot wasn't the MAIN reason; pretty much all voices agree that the beating and violence was secondary. So why is rape different. Anyone who has ever had to do something very difficult and against whatever standards one normally lives by is surely accustomed to how one needs to sort of "whip oneself up" for the task....is it crazy to think robbers do this. If they say "What if the homeowner walks in on me?" to himself, is it really that strange to think he will make himself all mad at the idea so he can be as brutal as possible to get the job done?
So why would rape be different? And add in the extra part about a forcible rape involving an unwilling woman---yet another woman, no doubt, who tells him "NO!" when he wants to hear "Yes." Violence is secondary, sex is first. And if muggers are out for money, not beating and then saying "Oh, look, the guy has a wallet." why would anyone assume it back-asswards for rape?
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Date: 2007-05-12 08:34 pm (UTC)In other crimes, whether robbery or anything else, plenty of cases are seen where the victims are cruelly beaten and abused---even killed. But nobody suggests that getting the money/loot wasn't the MAIN reason; pretty much all voices agree that the beating and violence was secondary. So why is rape different. Anyone who has ever had to do something very difficult and against whatever standards one normally lives by is surely accustomed to how one needs to sort of "whip oneself up" for the task....is it crazy to think robbers do this. If they say "What if the homeowner walks in on me?" to himself, is it really that strange to think he will make himself all mad at the idea so he can be as brutal as possible to get the job done?
So why would rape be different? And add in the extra part about a forcible rape involving an unwilling woman---yet another woman, no doubt, who tells him "NO!" when he wants to hear "Yes." Violence is secondary, sex is first.
And if muggers are out for money, not beating and then saying "Oh, look, the guy has a wallet." why would anyone assume it back-asswards for rape?