Calling him a coward won't work--you don't know him well enough to make it stick. (Neither do I.)
I'm skirting an edge there... I haven't been active on the Cauldron in a long while, and re-starting by flamewar is, err, not unexpected, but probably not the "best" way to rejoin the conversations. And I'm really, really sitting on my hands to keep from making some kind of vague comments about his daughters, bullies, and the sexual overtones many teenage boys attach to bullying.
(I dunno. Maybe he's absolutely oblivious to the prevalence of attempted rape in high school. The guys who'd never dream of it, seem to think it really doesn't exist.)
Saying "it's just words" is either the mark of: 1) A bully who wants to believe he's not hurting anyone (which Bob isn't) 2) A victim who can't believe he's being hurt by something as "silly" as words (possible, but not likely) 3) Someone else, who's never been involved in a toxic verbal environment, and doesn't really believe they exist.
(By the way, if you're not reading ozarque, you should. Cos you'd like it. Only vaguely connected to this conversation.)
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Date: 2004-09-23 09:52 pm (UTC)I'm skirting an edge there... I haven't been active on the Cauldron in a long while, and re-starting by flamewar is, err, not unexpected, but probably not the "best" way to rejoin the conversations. And I'm really, really sitting on my hands to keep from making some kind of vague comments about his daughters, bullies, and the sexual overtones many teenage boys attach to bullying.
(I dunno. Maybe he's absolutely oblivious to the prevalence of attempted rape in high school. The guys who'd never dream of it, seem to think it really doesn't exist.)
Saying "it's just words" is either the mark of:
1) A bully who wants to believe he's not hurting anyone (which Bob isn't)
2) A victim who can't believe he's being hurt by something as "silly" as words (possible, but not likely)
3) Someone else, who's never been involved in a toxic verbal environment, and doesn't really believe they exist.
(By the way, if you're not reading