Some people are issued broad, open lands from which they must reach their destination. I got started on one of those narrow cliff roads where if I go too far to one side, I faceplant into a mountain, and if I go too far to the other, I go off the edge. In my spiritual situation, trying new stuff just to see if it works is both stupid and painful; what works is _obvious_, because it's the only place where there's solid ground that I can walk upon.
i think this is very, very, very hard to understand for some people who either don't get clear messages like this, or who don't trust them -- minus the sermonizing, i could have been this person in the not-too-distant past. i've had one clear message in my life, or what felt like one, and that one said "drop your faith", ironically. nothing since then.
and yup, i am rather big on trying things out, and pushing through some discomfort i have initially to see whether behind it all is something i might value, and i've had really good success with that approach. (not familiar with the game, and questing comes closest, but what i really feel i am is exploring, with a good bit of pattern thrown in when there are dilemmas.)
and i've got to cop to thinking to myself at times that some people might be well off trying some things that they shy away from. but at least now i reserve that usually for people who seem to be neck-deep in shit they don't like to be in.
Even if commenting on (and mucking about with) someone's relationship structures isn't an unwarranted intimacy (I generally find it such; I know people who don't)
in public, if somebody is talking about it, i tend to feel commenting is ok, though i notice that i feel that way a lot less on LJ than on usenet -- journals feel more like semi-private space to me.
as always, love your philosophizing, and that kelp bit is neat.
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Date: 2002-07-31 09:07 pm (UTC)i think this is very, very, very hard to understand for some people who either don't get clear messages like this, or who don't trust them -- minus the sermonizing, i could have been this person in the not-too-distant past. i've had one clear message in my life, or what felt like one, and that one said "drop your faith", ironically. nothing since then.
and yup, i am rather big on trying things out, and pushing through some discomfort i have initially to see whether behind it all is something i might value, and i've had really good success with that approach. (not familiar with the game, and questing comes closest, but what i really feel i am is exploring, with a good bit of pattern thrown in when there are dilemmas.)
and i've got to cop to thinking to myself at times that some people might be well off trying some things that they shy away from. but at least now i reserve that usually for people who seem to be neck-deep in shit they don't like to be in.
Even if commenting on (and mucking about with) someone's relationship structures isn't an unwarranted intimacy (I generally find it such; I know people who don't)
in public, if somebody is talking about it, i tend to feel commenting is ok, though i notice that i feel that way a lot less on LJ than on usenet -- journals feel more like semi-private space to me.
as always, love your philosophizing, and that kelp bit is neat.
-piranha