A piece of this is reminding me of a half-remembered "yes, but are you a Catholic atheist or a Protestant atheist?" example of a culture attempting to put someone into one of a pair of boxes that are entirely-wrong-question.
I'm not sure I entirely agree with the "no one is trying to do improv with you" idea, though, unless one is being picky about the meaning of "with". It seems to me that a lot of the social improv in out-in-the-world spaces involves not-interacting with one another, and the negotiations to determine what sort of not-interaction it is -- whether it's ignoring each other, or an aware non-interaction and on which sides and whether there is an appearance of ignoring the other -- can happen very quickly if both people are flagging the same language.
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Date: 2022-06-10 07:47 am (UTC)I'm not sure I entirely agree with the "no one is trying to do improv with you" idea, though, unless one is being picky about the meaning of "with". It seems to me that a lot of the social improv in out-in-the-world spaces involves not-interacting with one another, and the negotiations to determine what sort of not-interaction it is -- whether it's ignoring each other, or an aware non-interaction and on which sides and whether there is an appearance of ignoring the other -- can happen very quickly if both people are flagging the same language.