Okay, clearly there's specific context here. If I knew it, I'd know what to say.
I tend to think that labeling yourself can be very handy sometimes, but at other times it becomes a straitjacket. Often, as we grow and change, we have to re-assess some of the one-word blips we pick for ourselves. Sometimes this is painful. Sometimes we find that what feels best is to not categorize ourselves for a while and see how that works out. Or to describe in detail how we feel or what we want, rather than trying for a word that sums it up. (FWIW, this is some people's problem with safewords... not sure if that's incidental or relevant.)
But that's very different from when you claim a label for yourself and others refuse to accept that you are, in fact, that thing.
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Date: 2010-03-07 01:18 am (UTC)I tend to think that labeling yourself can be very handy sometimes, but at other times it becomes a straitjacket. Often, as we grow and change, we have to re-assess some of the one-word blips we pick for ourselves. Sometimes this is painful. Sometimes we find that what feels best is to not categorize ourselves for a while and see how that works out. Or to describe in detail how we feel or what we want, rather than trying for a word that sums it up. (FWIW, this is some people's problem with safewords... not sure if that's incidental or relevant.)
But that's very different from when you claim a label for yourself and others refuse to accept that you are, in fact, that thing.