Yes, that's it exactly. And specifically/worse, with the gender stereotypes in place, men can't want the things that throwing the stereotypes away would give them, because wanting those things would make them 'unmanly' and 'effeminate' and 'sissy'. It's one thing for women to seek something that society calls 'strength', another for men to seek something that society calls 'weakness'. --And for that matter, for individual women to say that they personally want (some of) those things that society undervalues and don't want (some of) those things that society overvalues.