Can you expand on your late-night theory somewhat? I'm not sure I understand your meaning there.

As for your second sentence, it is certainly possible that my preference for loudly awesome people means that I overlook quietly awesome people as well as being fed up by loudly non-awesome people; but I would expect the category of quietly awesome people to include at least as many women as men, since women get so many more cultural lessons on hiding their awesomeness so as not to scare people away. Of course, it's just as possible that I'm overlooking all those quietly awesome women too!